New York City

(so after I wrote that last post about all the polls?  The next day I found $20 in the bottom my purse.  Argh.  We’re choosing to laugh about it.  đꙂ

The primary purpose of this trip is to see people, not places.  We’ve passed up a lot of great landmarks, and that’s okay, because that’s not why we’re doing this.  But we decided that we couldn’t come all the way to the east coast without visiting NYC and DC, so we gave ourselves two days for each place.  

New York City truly is as fantastic as the movies make it out to be.  It’s an amazing blend of history and modernity, and is unlike any place I have ever been.  The people, the streets, the noise…it really is remarkable.  

Empire State Building 

NYC is also incredibly expensive.  Which is why we drove past a lot of places without going in.  

 

eating world famous gyros from a world famous street cart (it’s true!)

Where else can you go to find Elvis as an M&M?

Touring in a double-decker bus

I cannot resist Broadway shows.  How could I possibly come all the way to New York and not take my kids to see Broadway?  

 There’s something really special about watching Annie with former orphans.  

We made it to the Atlantic Ocean!

The Statue of Liberty is back there.  But I figured you’d more likely want the see the kids in front. 

the world famous toy store

Name that movie.  Anyone?  Anyone?  

Lessons Learned

East coast lessons learned the hard way by ignorant Californians:

1.  When you make a hotel reservation in New York City, do not assume they have a parking lot.  Silly us.  We assumed all hotels have things like parking lots. Suddenly that “discounted rate” we got on Expedia doesn’t seem so discounted anymore when you have to add another $40 for overnight parking…and then trudge down two blocks on dark NYC streets with your three sleepy children and their sleeping bags and your duffel bags and computers (since you don’t want to leave them all night in the $40 parking lot….)

2.  When driving on the east coast, BRING LOTS AND LOTS OF CASH.  You will be sucked dry by all the toll pikes (what is a pike, anyway?) and toll roads and toll bridges and toll tunnels.  Apparently the east coast doesn’t have taxes like California does?  (or maybe that’s why California is bankrupt?)  Anyway, when you look hopelessly at the toll attendants because all of your cash was used up at the previous toll booth, like a mile ago, she just grumpily tells you that your “violation will come in the mail.”  Please….please have mercy on us poor unfortunate people from California who are not accustomed to driving with cash….  We can drive for free where we come from.

(regardless, we had a wonderful two days in New York City.  pictures coming soon….after Gil sorts through the 600 or so pictures he took during those two days….)

Pennsylvania

Doug and Elaine and family were co-workers at HOPAC with us for many years, and we taught their kids. As a fellow adoptive mama, Elaine has been a mentor for me for many years.  I remember when we first brought home Grace, she brought me a meal….because she knew that new adoptive mamas need those too.    

and they took us to Chocolate World in Hershey, PA….

chocolate-induced, somewhat maniacal smiles….

Then we drove east to see Dan and Janet and family.  This family was one of the very first families we met in Tanzania, way back in 2001.  They mentored us and taught us and loved us for years….they were the ones we always called when we had no idea what to do….which was often.  How sweet it was to be with them again.

Thankful for big boys who were happy to play with my little boy.

We’re almost to the Atlantic Ocean….stay tuned!

Ohio

visiting Craig and Kathy, former pastor and wife of our church in So. California

at the Creation Museum (which is technically in Kentucky, not Ohio)

 at the Air Force Museum

visiting Ben and Melissa and their five kids, friends from Dar

Melissa has two Liberian daughters, and a African-hair-stylist-extraordinaire.  Not only did she give me a lot of advice, but she even braided Grace’s hair for me.  Grace wanted it “just like Felicia’s.”  Aren’t they cute?

visiting my friend Kate, who was a wonderful blessing to me in Tanzania.  God’s given her a husband and a baby (who will make his/her appearance any time now) since the last time I’ve seen her.  

The Craziest of Love

His love never fails, it never gives up, it never runs out on me.

His love never fails, it never gives up, it never runs out on me.  


This story started two years and four months ago.

When I first visited Forever Angels orphanage to meet Lily, another story began.

I didn’t remember the names of all the kids I met that day, but I remembered Zawadi.  Almost everyone who meets her does.  Five years old at the time, fluent in both English and Swahili, bright, amusing, and affectionate, with an infectious joy despite her very difficult circumstances, Zawadi is a child who makes an impression.

Lily (age 2) and Zawadi  (age 5) at Forever Angels

And she was desperate for a family.  Zawadi saw child after child from Forever Angels picked up by relatives or brought home by adoptive parents.  And she wanted a Mommy and Daddy too.  In fact, she would tell this to Amy H. (the manager) quite often.  “When is my family coming for me?  When do I get a Mommy and Daddy?  Why does Lily get a family and
not me?  She is only two, and I am five.”

The truth is, Zawadi would have been selected for adoption years ago, but she had an unusual family background that made social welfare
reluctant to release her for adoption. But finally, right around the time we picked up Lily, social welfare agreed:  Zawadi could be adopted.  She could finally get her family.  But would it be too late?

We even considered Zawadi for our family, but eventually knew that it was Lily that God had chosen for us.

However, I talked about Zawadi whenever I talked about Forever Angels.  And I remember clearly when I told Lauren, one of my very best friends.

It was on a Friday night, at Youth Group, and I had just returned from my trip to meet Lily that afternoon. Lauren and I sat with our backs against the living room wall, a swirl of teenagers laughing around us.  I told her
about Lily, about the orphanage, and about the other children, including
Zawadi.  About how she always asked Amy for a family.

I had no idea that would be the seed.

Lauren went home and looked up Zawadi on the Forever Angels website.  She couldn’t get her out of her mind.  She told her husband, Ben, about
her, and soon he also couldn’t stop thinking about her.  On Monday I got a text message from Lauren, “Can we come talk to you sometime about the adoption process in Tanzania?”

Two years and four months ago, they started the adoption process in Tanzania.

When you are in love with a child, and that child is desperate for a family, two years and four months is a very, very long time.

In October of last year, they finally got to meet her.  They spent a glorious two days together. They all fell in love. Zawadi, being quite perceptive, figured out that Ben and Lauren were her prospective parents. And being the precocious child that she is, and knowing how this process works, took it upon herself to sit down at the computer and write her own letter to social welfare, print it, sign it, and seal it in an envelope. It reads, “Ples
can loren and ben be my mom and dad.”

It was at that point that I first posted about this story.  Back in October, we thought that it would be “any day now.”  But instead weeks and weeks went by which turned into months and months.

Instead of getting easier, Zawadi’s story got more and more complicated. Harder. Unprecedented among adoptions in  Tanzania. Yet her need for a family never went away.

Many, many times, it seemed totally impossible. I wept and wept with Lauren and prayed and begged God to help. Even writing this now, the tears flow as I remember those times of utter despair.

Finally, a few months ago, circumstances arose that meant that Zawadi would probably never be adopted, by anyone.

That’s when Ben and Lauren took the craziest step of love ever, and declared that they would be willing to be long-term foster parents. Long term, as in, Zawadi’s entire childhood.

People do that in America all the time, but this is Tanzania. And they are American.  They knew the future would be uncertain and risky and there would be no guarantees.

But they loved Zawadi with a crazy kind of love. A never-stopping, never giving-up, always and forever love.

Back in February, at our amazing spiritual retreat, Ben taught the students that song:

His love never fails, it never gives up, it never runs out on me.

During the past few days, those words keep running through my head.

Because two days ago, the day before school started, Ben and Lauren brought home this little girl.

To love unconditionally, now and forever.

I can’t stop smiling and I can’t stop crying.

How they love her.

How He loves us.

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