Loss

My heart is heavy today.

Less than two years ago, I wrote thisabout William and Stella, when they lost their first pre-term baby at 7 months.

Since then, Stella has had two more miscarriages.

And Sunday, she lost yet another pre-term 7 month baby. Apparently the baby was feet down and was vigorously kicking which caused contractions. Her womb opened up and the baby was born. He was over 3 pounds, but only lived a few minutes. In the process of all this, Stella was given multiple blood transfusions, one of which was the wrong blood type.

I have only met Stella once but see William almost every day, since he is the head janitor at HOPAC. He is a man that is full of joy and friendliness and helpfulness and smiles. He is committed to the Lord and missional and evangelical. He is a blessing to all who know him.

I am heartbroken for William and Stella and their terrible, terrible losses. I am heartbroken by the despair that must tempt them.

But what makes me even more sad is that this is not unusual in Tanzania. William and Stella’s loss reaches into my heart because I know them, but what about the countless other Tanzanian women who experience this daily? Stella’s first baby most likely would not have died with American healthcare. I would imagine that this baby would not have died with American healthcare. Her body obviously has trouble carrying babies to term. But will she ever get the treatment she needs to help that problem? And truthfully, with all of her hemorrhaging, she is lucky to be alive. Many times we have heard of women who die in childbirth in this country. I have never heard of a woman dying in childbirth in America.

I grieve for the unfairness of it all.

I mourn for the pain of a mother who has lost four children, for her arms that are once again going home empty.

I believe in a good God who has all things under His control, and this is not excluded. But I yearn for the Day when all things will be made right again, when there will be no more sorrow or pain or babies dying–that Day when William and Stella will get to meet their four lost children.

But until then, I pray that things will change in this country I have come to love. Since there is so little I personally can do to make a difference, I pray that our students will. America is not the Promised Land. But at least mothers don’t have to fear dying in childbirth. At least 3 pound babies have a good chance of survival.

Imagine it was you, and pray for them today.

Gangsters and Gals

Twinkly lights, roses, sparkling punch, feathers in the hair, great music, and of course…dancing! Last Friday night our Youth Group was transported back in time to the Roaring 20’s…and what a fabulous evening we had!


In Youth Group, we love our theme nights. There’s not a lot of places for teens to go around here, or things for them to do, so we make up for it by putting on Theme Nights. Every time they get better. I think this one was the most fun so far. This is me and my co-leader, Carley (third from left) with our Discipleship Group.

It wouldn’t have happened without Kate (2nd from left), our good friend and fellow Youth leader who also teaches at HOPAC. This really was her idea…and since she was the only one who knew the dances, she made it happen! Kate decided to name our 20’s “club” the “Charleston Charge.” She told the kids that only Carley, Gil, and Amy would “get” it….but that we would think it was pretty funny. She was right…and I’m guessing that some of my readers from my generation will “get” it too. 🙂

Kate and Christa (who is a naturally gifted dancer) demonstrating for the group.

They all got out there and tried–even the guys!

But I think the guys were more into the guns than the dancing….

About half of the group.

And of course, we had the cutest little Gangster and Gal of all….what is kind of scary is that no one asked her to pose like that.

Sigh….my very own Gangster. Isn’t he fabulous? And my dress….didn’t I tell you?

When I came out of the bedroom with the dress and the hair and the hat and the bright red lipstick…Josiah just stared and stared with those expressive eyes. Finally he said, “You look cute, Mommy!” in his two-year-old voice. Fabulous.

It Always Starts and Ends With a Letter

I visited social welfare again today, for the first time in over a year.

Ah, the memories. That long drive, parking down the street, walking down the sidewalks of downtown Dar, past the shoeshiners, the beggers, the deep-fried bananas, the guy with the bathroom scale that you can step on for 25 cents to check your weight. Riding the elevator to the fourth floor. Usually returning disappointed, impatient, sometimes in tears, sometimes elated.

Today, I had a letter.

Dear Commissioner of Social Welfare,

….we would like to apply to foster a third child so that Grace and Josiah can have a younger brother or sister….

You get the idea.

Here we go again!

Dressing Those Gals

What do you do when you know you have a costume party coming up and need vintage clothing? Go to a thrift store, of course!

And when there are no thrift stores in your country? You go to the market! Because guess what? Ever wonder what happens to all the clothes in the thrift stores that don’t get sold? They get boxed up and sent over to third world countries! And end up in markets like these:



And how do I know that these clothes are thrift store cast-offs? Because they all have labels like this:


Since our Youth Group is having a “Gangsters and Gals” (Roaring 20’s) theme night on Friday night, a bunch of girls and I headed out to the market today to find costumes. I wasn’t terribly optimistic as to what we would find, but boy, did we find some gems! I know you just can’t see it now, but this really is a fabulous flapper costume. (Can you believe the thrift store got rid of this fabulous dress?) Just you wait until the pictures of Friday night!


It was great. We all even found matching hats–adorable hats–to go along with our fabulous dresses. Of course, it is a little awkward trying on dresses over your clothes, with four salesmen watching, all of them suggesting the next dress to try on. And of course, I did have to tell those men numerous times that, no, they cannot marry any of the girls I was with. That still didn’t stop them from proposing.

But what do you expect? They are indeed beautiful girls.

I love the uniqueness of groups like this. One 9th grader, one 10th, one 11th, and one 12th grader. One from America, one from Denmark, one from Germany, one from Holland. All MK’s.

Fabulous.

West Meets East…or Something Like That


Grace asked us recently, “Can we go to the Indian restaurant?”

I couldn’t figure out what she was talking about. “Anghiti’s? Copper Pot? Copper Chimney?” There are numerous (scruptious) Indian restaurants in Dar, but I never thought Grace would actually choose to go there.

And then I made the connection: Oh, the Indian restaurant: Spur.

Spur is probably the closest we get here to Applebees or Fridays or Chilis. Fully air conditioned. Slick photo menus. Padded booths. Salad bar. Even a kids’ section in the back with a slide and face painting.

And the food? Well, let me put it this way. If you’ve been in Dar for at least 6 months, the food is fabulous. If you go there only a few weeks after arriving from the States, well….not so much. As long as you stick to the burgers or steaks, you do okay. I remember, years ago, when I first went there (shortly after coming from the States) excitedly ordering “nachos” from the menu. Uh, yeah…that was the last time I ever did that. Imagine cottage cheese instead of cheddar cheese and spaghetti sauce instead of salsa…you get the idea.

Anyway. The most amusing part about Spur? The theme. Just as Grace said, the theme is indeed “Indian.” As in “American Indian,” “Native American,” or “First American”–whatever the new politically correct word is.

Let me describe this in a little more detail. Spur is a South African chain. South African. With an American Indian theme. And not even politically correct American Indian. We’re talking teepees, head dresses, warrior face paint, and feathered spears. The kids even get little paper Indian feather headbands reminicent of Burger King crowns.

I’m not kidding.

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