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The Third Turning Three

It’s true what they say about the third child….it’s really just not fair.

Grace got a birthday party with friends when she turned three, and a pinata her Daddy made her.  Josiah got a picnic and face painting and balloon animals. 

Which, of course, they have no memory of. 

So why make a big deal, right? 

Poor third child. 

But since this is Lily’s first birthday with her family, and well, she is pretty special, we still wanted it to be a special day.  Especially since she had been asking me for weeks if it was her birthday Today.

Since her birthday was a day off of school, we all got to go to Water World. 

And since we were making waffles for dinner, I thought, No one is really going to want to eat cake, right?  Can’t we just put the candles in the waffles?

So we did.  But then, whenever I was in the kitchen the next two days, she asked me if I was making her a birthday cake.

So the girl got a cake.  Just a couple days late. 

Speaking of Money…..

Imagine buying everything with cash.

ev.er.y.thing.

Food

Gas

Electricity

Car Insurance

Internet

Clothes

Major appliances

Furniture

Restaurants

Doctor’s bills

Phone credit

And THEN imagine that the highest denomination of currency was worth about $7.50.  No $100 bills, $50….not even a $10.  Only $7.50.  That’s what 10,000 Tanzanian shillings is worth.

Yep.  That’s a lot of cash.

To carry around.

In your purse.

On a regular basis. 

Yeah, that’s my life. 

(I exaggerate only slightly….the main grocery store did start accepting credit cards in recent months.  BUT you can’t use it with the cashier…you have to leave your groceries (and children in the cart) and go over to the manager’s desk to pay separately….so unless you are totally out of cash, it’s not really worth it.)

Lessons from Living With (But Not In) Poverty (Part 5)

Last one.  I promise.  Then I will go back to more mundane things.  So, for those of you who have tuned out this section (congratulations if you have gotten this far), please don’t tune out forever. 

When I started, I really didn’t realize I would have so much to say.  But the juices got flowing.  I obviously need an editor.  (It’s worse when I talk, trust me.)

So let me just sum up here:

1.  We are commanded to care about the poor, and to care for them. 

2.  Make sure you are helping, not hurting (and not giving just to relieve your conscience).

3.  God wants to use all of you, not just your money, to do His work to help the poor.  Consider the idea that He might want your family involved in more “mess” than you may have realized. 

Other ideas:

1.  Intentionally move into a low-income neighborhood. 

2.  Invite a college student from a low-income family to live with you, rent free.  (My parents have done this for 5 years.  Yay, Mom and Dad!)

3.  Volunteer at a pregnancy center, or a women’s shelter, or a children’s home.

4.  Become a foster parent.

5.  Adopt an international orphan or financially support someone who wants to.

6.  Tutor kids from a low-income neighborhood (but kids’ ministry should always be a bridge to family ministry, never an end in itself). 

7.  Cultivate your own strong marriage and help others cultivate theirs (since that’s the very best way to keep kids out of poverty).

Other ideas?  Anyone?

I don’t have it all together.  My primary purpose in Tanzania is not poverty alleviation.  But I can’t ignore it when it is all around me.  May some of what I have learned be a means for God to teach you as well. 

Thanks for reading!

Lessons from Living With (But Not In) Poverty (Part 4)

This one might be a little radical.  But stick with me.

Lesson #5

Give Someone a Job.

Yep.  Hire Someone.  To do your cleaning, laundry, cooking, landscaping, gardening, whatever.  Be creative. 

I can hear you saying, You’re telling me to hire a maid?

Well, I don’t really like that word, but basically, Yes.  Giving someone a job is the best way to help that person get out of poverty.

We do this all the time in Africa.  We have two people who work for us full-time.  I know that full-time help is much more expensive in America.  So try once a week. 

But I know the stereotype.  Only the rich and lazy have maids and gardeners and cooks. 

Well, we’ve already established that you are rich.  Get used to the idea.

And lazy?  Well, it doesn’t have to be that way.  Having full-time house help frees up hours of time that I can invest in ministry.  You don’t have to use that time for watching television.  Volunteer in a pregnancy center or make meals for people who are sick or better yet, get to know your neighbors. 

It’s time that people in the west stop seeing these kind of jobs as a luxury, and instead see them as ministry

I’m not suggesting that you hire someone and then make sure you are never home when she is around.  I’m suggesting that you hire somone and then invest in his life.

Which involves talking.  Getting to know him.  Finding out who her kids are.  Having the family over to dinner.  Discovering his goals and aspirations, and then helping him meet those goals.  Encouraging English classes, if needed.  Helping her take college classes.  Teaching him new skills that will help him move upwards economically. 

And maybe even spoiling her kids at Christmas.  Don’t you think that would be much better than buying presents for an unknown, faceless “poor” person who will probably lose his dignity because he can’t afford gifts for his kids himself?  How much better for the family to receive gifts from her generous employer!

What I’m talking about is messy business, folks.  Trust me.  There are many times when I would just prefer to do my ironing myself, thank you very much, because it’s emotionally hard and complicated and just plain messy to be that involved in a person’s life. 

But isn’t that what we are called to do? 

Like I said, it’s much easier to just throw money at the problem.  Or pick up a few extra gifts at Christmas for a person you will never meet. 

But that’s not going to end poverty. 

So think about it.  If you are on a tight budget, maybe you already scrimp and save and sacrifice to sponsor a child overseas or support an Indian pastor.  And what I am suggesting is that it would be just as valuable (maybe more so) to scrimp and save and sacrifice to hire someone.

It’s not a luxury; it’s ministry.  If you are willing to see it the right way.

And the last one (for now!):  Part 5

Lessons from Living With (But Not In) Poverty (Part 3)

Lesson #2

Money alone is not the answer.  To poverty, that is. 

Sometimes we read statistics about how much money it would take to alleviate poverty.  And that makes us dig a little deeper into our pockets and fork over some more at the next offering.  But all my years in Africa have taught me:  Money alone is not the answer. 

Did you know that in the 50-60 years since Africa received its independence from colonial rule, billions of dollars have been given or loaned to African nations?

And did you know that in those 50-60 years, the standard of living in most (if not all) African countries has decreased?

Decreased. 

The opposite of increased.

After billions of dollars.

Money alone is not the answer.

(But, um….look at America.  How many people who have spent years on welfare (and not in just an emergency situation) are now living financially, self-sufficient, productive lives?  Yeah.  Goes for African nations too.)

See, the problem is, when we hear about poverty and are convicted about it, our first inclination is to throw money at it.  That way we don’t feel so guilty.  But the truth is, money (or other kinds of donations) alone often makes the problem worse.

But they seem like such noble causes!

Building a church for a poor village:   But how is that affecting the local believers’ sense of biblical stewardship?  What does that say to the unbelievers in that village?  (Come to Jesus and the white people will give you stuff!)

Sending used clothes to a poor village.  Or a huge box of school supplies for the children:  But what does that do to the guy down the street who is trying to make a living by selling clothes?  What does it do to the tiny stationery shop when suddenly no one wants to buy their pencils any more? 

Building a well in an area with no water supply:  Africa is littered with wells that were machine-dug, and are now broken with no one to fix them.  They can’t be maintained.  The local people have no sense of ownership over it, because they did nothing to make it happen.  Now–perhaps there are times when a machine-dug well can be a lifesaver for a local school or orphanage….but ONLY if it is not replacing the work that the local, indigenous church should be doing themselves!

Lesson #3:

Money+long-term commitment+the GOSPEL=The Answer

Ohhhhh….there’s too much on this to say on this for a blog post!  But if you want more, then you must read this book.  But let me just summarize by saying that the gospel changes more than just people’s eternal destiny!  It gives them dignity and respect and a work ethic and integrity.  It gives them the desire to be unselfish and to cooperate with their neighbors.  It sets people free from the bondage of addictions so that they are able to provide for their families. 

And using principles from Scripture, workers can help produce long-term poverty alleviation even before there is a community of believers. 

Take, for example, another method of well-building:  A long-term worker builds relationships with the men in the village.  Over time, he develops a vision in them for building a well.  He tells them that if they provide all the labor, he will provide the materials.  He teaches them how to do it. 

The men agree and dig the well themselves, provided with about $600 in supplies.  They succeed.  They know how to maintain it themselves.  The well could last 100 years.  The men are so excited that on their own, they make plans to build another one.  Dignity.  Respect.  Self-sufficiency.  Reproducibility. 

True story.  From very good friends of mine.

Lesson #4

So where should my money go?

Make sure your donations are helping, not hurting.

Are you supporting a national pastor in the developing world that would better be supported by a local church?  Is the organization working towards that goal?

Are you paying for a church to be built and the local people are doing nothing?  Contributing nothing? 

Are you supporting an expensive short-term missions trip where the participants will be stealing work from nationals…..such as painting a building?  Distributing gifts and prizes to small children that can never be replicated by the local church?  (What if then the kids in the village only want to come to VBS when the white people are there, because that’s when they “get stuff?”  What does that do to the national believers?)

Is the gospel a major part of any poverty alleviation effort that is going on?  Is it a part of a long-term, relationship-building ministry, or just a “blitz” that won’t have lasting results?

Look for national involvement and decisions.  Who initiated the project?  The local church?  Or the white people with Big Ideas for fixing problems?  Look for long-term sustainment, reproducibility….and humility among the foreign workers.  Micro-enterprise.  Selling things at low prices instead of giving them away.  Using local resources instead of imported resources. 

A couple of major exceptions:

1.  Emergency relief after a national disaster.  Support organizations that are doing this in the name of Jesus, but other than that–get those poor people some water and food and shelter.  Just make sure you support a ministry that knows this should be temporary.

2.  Orphan ministry (though even in this, the local church should be involved!)

3.  Sometimes any of the above.  I’m not ready to tell anyone that they should never support a national pastor or pay for a church to be built or pay for a machine-dug well.  I’m mostly saying that you should do your homework and ask good questions and think through the long-term effects of how you donate.

(at least one more part coming soon…..to be continued)

Keep reading:  Part 4

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